2011 was the Pregnant Me. It was a year of slowing down, taking care of myself, sleeping, and preparing for life change. 2012 was the New Mom Me. It was a year of welcoming a new person into my life, of juggling, sleep deprivation, missed haircuts, sporadic workouts, and a less than robust sex life. Hey - I'm just being honest here!
So here we are. It's a week into 2013 and it hit me - if I don't think about who I want the 2013 Me to be, I may stay in the same cycle for the unforeseeable future. So, I pondered - who am I now?
This is a big question. It's so huge that it could be deemed overwhelming enough to put off for another year. I can understand why women who have children, especially two or more, may cruise along for a decade before they realize that they haven't spent any time on themselves.
I decided to tackle this question by first asking myself, "Who am I now?" and then to ponder, "Is that who I want to be?" Think about how you define yourself. What do you say when someone asks, "What do you do?" Over the years, I've defined myself as a swimmer, swim coach, pro triathlete, Tim DeBoom's wife, the Skirt Lady, a successful entrepreneur, and now Wilder's Mom.
I'm a new mom. I love this new role. I am doing a great job as a mom. I'm so damn proud of myself. You know this if you follow me on Facebook - 98% of my posts involve my daughter. Wilder and I have the greatest bond. She is a treat. She makes is easy to be a mom. In 2013, I want to be a great mom.
I'm a great partner to Tim but not the greatest wife I can be. We had our 16th anniversary on December 28th and we asked how we could be "better" for each other. One of the things that was a huge part of our life together was exercise. We worked out together almost every day. It's been almost two years since we did a bike ride together. We realized that we don't want to lose that part of our connection.
This may seem ridiculous but one of the things we are committing to do is line up babysitters, which will allow us have a “bike” date. We are one of "those couples." You know them. The ones who have never had a babysitter before. It seems so strange. I mean, Wilder goes to "school" two days a week. Tim and I have both traveled without Wilder. You'd think we would be comfortable with babysitters by now. But it just hasn't happened yet. Will babysitters help me be a better wife? I have no idea, but it's a start! In 2013, I want to be a great wife.
I'm the CEO of a kickass women's apparel business. It has not been the smoothest transition back to work, but it's coming around. After I had Wilder, I honestly wasn't sure if I would want to work at the same insane level again. I'm happy to say that I am fully entrenched/obsessed/in love with Skirt Sports, probably more than ever before. Finding enough time to work is still a challenge. My goal for 2013 is to try to work in the bigger picture of the business. This should nicely balance my detail-driven mom side! In 2013, I want to be a great business leader.
I'm not as physically fit as I would like to be. I feel like I spent the last two years growing a massive appendage (40 pounds worth!), then slowly melting it off. Every time I try to get a consistent fitness regime lined up, I get sick (thanks daycare!). Fitness is my foundation. For this, we've decided to commit to a gym with a great daycare facility. I will never have to be at the mercy of the weather or Tim's schedule. Just thinking about this feels liberating! In 2013, I want to make fitness a priority again. I don't need to do double workouts every day; I just want a little more consistency.
Finally, I do have a lot of other interests, but I don't think that I realistically have enough time to focus on them in my 2013 Me plans with everything else I want to do.
So tell me - Who do you want to be in 2013?